Episode 3

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21st Apr 2023

Ep 3 The Link Between Unrealistic Expectations of Being the Perfect Mom & Trauma

Have you ever felt like you're never quite measuring up to the expectations of being the perfect mom? If so, you're not alone. As mothers, we often put a huge amount of pressure on ourselves to provide our children with the best possible childhood, and it is no surprise that we struggle to live up to the ideal. But have you ever considered where this pressure of being the perfect mom comes from? In today's podcast episode, I dive deep into the link between the unrealistic expectations of motherhood that society puts on us and our childhood trauma. 

Tune in as I share the different types of trauma that can influence our lives as moms, how they can show up in our daily lives, and what happens when we finally release the pressure and let go of the need for perfectionism. Whether you're currently struggling with the demands of motherhood or simply seeking to understand the root causes of this pressure, I invite you to join me in today’s episode so together we can let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace the messy, imperfect reality of motherhood.


In this episode, I chat about:

  • The different reasons why moms put a huge amount of pressure on themselves to be the perfect mom
  • Why maintaining the image of the perfect mom is unrealistic
  • Do you freak out at the thought of putting your child in daycare?
  • Mind games you might be experiencing if you had a parent with narcissistic traits
  • Why hand-me-downs might trigger some postpartum moms
  • How to release the pressure of being the perfect mom
  • The benefits of letting go of the pressure and perfectionism


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Related episodes:

  • Episode 2 - Birth Trauma: What it is, How to Recognize It & How to Heal


Quote:

“As moms, we feel like we have to maintain this perfect mom image, which is totally unrealistic and it sets us up for failure.”


DISCLAIMER

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.



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About the Podcast

Healing Mothers' Club
Parenting After Childhood Trauma | Inner Child Healing | Nervous System Regulation
Welcome to the Healing Mothers' Club - the club no one signs up for, but so many of us belong to. This is the space where we learn to parent our kids AND ourselves after childhood trauma so we can live a full, authentic life. We’re all healing moms – whether you’re a mom to humans wanting to break the cycle of trauma in the family you’ve created, or you're a human in need of self-mothering to regulate your nervous system so you can stop the self-sabotage cycle – we’re all part of the same club. I invite you to join me, Danik Bernier, host of this podcast, healing mom, EMDR Certified therapist and Nervous System Coach on this journey towards trauma liberation and nervous system regulation. You can also find me on Instagram, @healingmothersclub. Check out the show notes for the link for a FREE coaching consultation.

DISCLAIMER
This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

About your host

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Danik Bernier

Danik is the host of this podcast, an EMDR certified therapist, consultant-in-training, nervous system coach and mom of 2.