Ep 23 – The Golden Child and the Scapegoat with Mel Guttman, IFS Therapist

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club! As part of the mini-series on the effects of narcissistic abuse on motherhood, Danik is joined by Mel Guttman, a licensed IFS therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse and family estrangement.

In today’s episode, we cover:

• What is self-gaslighting and how to get out of the fog;
• How IFS Therapy and EMDR Therapy are game-changers for survivors of narcissistic abuse (and how talk therapy can only go so far);
• Why you may want to maintain a relationship with your narcissistic parent as a mother yourself, even if you logically know maintaining the relationship can be toxic;
• The “Scapegoat”, the “Golden Child”, and the narcissistic parent dynamic;
• The moments that make us realize our parent is actually a narcissist (Mel makes a link with the show The Bear on Hulu);
• The decision of going no-contact, low-contact, or to remain in full contact;
• The fear our child might become a narcissist.

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Connect with Mel Guttman here:

Instagram: @fallengoldenchild

TikTok: @fallengoldenchild

Website: https://www.ifswitch.com

Connect with Danik Bernier here:

Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms

Website (EMDR Therapy in Alberta, Ontario, and Quebec): danikbernier.com

❗FREE guide: When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom (a guide on assertiveness and boundary setting with your narcissistic mother)

DISCLAIMER :

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.