Episode 27

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3rd Nov 2025

Instagram's Most Frequently Unanswered Question: Why Can't I Send My Kid in Time-Out?

Welcome to the first episode of the first official season of the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, fellow healing mom of 2, Certified EMDR therapist, EMDR consultant-in-training, and parenting coach for moms with childhood trauma wanting to break the cycle. Today, we kick off the new season by answering one of the most frequently unanswered questions on the most popular parenting accounts on Instagram: if I can’t give my kid a time-out, what should I do with them when they were intentionally "bad" ?

I break this down with as much nuance as possible :

  • I explain the reason why time-outs became so popular and why they are now considered an ineffective and potentially traumatizing parenting tool
  • I answer the question by explaining why co-regulation is what makes most sense on a nervous system level
  • I go in detail as to what you can expect when using co-regulation as your go-to tool for big feelings AND unwanted behaviours (intentional or not)

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Next week we’ll talk about self-regulation and how good parenting starts with a baseline for inner safety.

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DISCLAIMER:

This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

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About the Podcast

Healing Mothers' Club
Parenting After Childhood Trauma | Inner Child Healing | Nervous System Regulation
Welcome to the Healing Mothers' Club - the club no one signs up for, but so many of us belong to. This is the space where we learn to parent our kids AND ourselves after childhood trauma so we can live a full, authentic life. We’re all healing moms – whether you’re a mom to humans wanting to break the cycle of trauma in the family you’ve created, or you're a human in need of self-mothering to regulate your nervous system so you can stop the self-sabotage cycle – we’re all part of the same club. I invite you to join me, Danik Bernier, host of this podcast, healing mom, EMDR Certified therapist and Nervous System Coach on this journey towards trauma liberation and nervous system regulation. You can also find me on Instagram, @healingmothersclub. Check out the show notes for the link for a FREE coaching consultation.

DISCLAIMER
This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

About your host

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Danik Bernier

Danik is the host of this podcast, an EMDR certified therapist, consultant-in-training, nervous system coach and mom of 2.